Life's NOT Fair

I was talking to a friend of mine complaining & cribbing about life in general and mumbling the oft repeated line, “life’s so NOT fair to me yaar ! ! “.
She asked me in response, “Who said life was fair, or that it was ever meant to be fair?”

Her question was a good one. A very good one.

One of the mistakes many of us make is to feel sorry for ourselves, or for others, thinking that life should be fair, or that someday it will be.
It’s not & it won’t.

When we make this mistake, we spend a lot of time wallowing about what’s wrong with life. We talk to others, discussing injustices of life. “It’s not fair”, we always complain, never realizing that, perhaps, it was never intended to be.

One of the nice things about surrendering to the fact that life’s not fair is that it keeps us from feeling sorry for ourselves by encouraging us to do the very best we can with what we have. It’s not life’s job to make everything perfect, it’s our own personal challenge.

Everyone is dealt with a different hand. You have to play with the cards you’ve been dealt.

The fact that life isn’t fair does not mean we shouldn’t do everything in our power to improve our own lives. Au contraire, it suggests that we SHOULD. When we don’t recognize or admit that life isn’t fair, we tend to feel pity for ourselves or others. And pity is definitely a self defeating, useless emotion that does nothing for anyone, except to make them feel worse than they already do.
Recognise that life’s not fair, and turn your self pity into some helpful action.